One-on-One Commitment with Self-Love Coach Danette Relic

When you feel like you have to do everything alone and perfectly, it’s easy to be hard on yourself.

Is there someone you forgot to be?

The big dream these days is not “more”. Not bigger. Not perfect.

It’s just you, getting to be you. Taking good care of yourself. Doing things that delight you and feel satisfying. Feeling at HOME in your own beautiful life.

FREE.

What are we even doing..

…if we are not living on our own terms? If we are scrolling our life away. If our relationships are on auto-pilot. If we are hitting all the marks but feeling so serious and exhausted. The worst part is, you know this is not really who you are, or who you could be.

This is how you are coping.

What you want seems so simple but there’s always something else going on.

This is supposed to be fun.

I help you prioritize your own life, one commitment at a time.

I am known for being shamelessly generous with the permission and compassion you need to do this work honestly.

SOFT STEADY YES is 3 months of compassionate, kick-ass support.

WHY 3 MONTHS?

A quarter. A season. A cycle. It’s enough time to be ambitious while also being flexible and generous with yourself when life gets life-y.

3 months do not carry the pressure of “forever” – allowing you to focus on what you’re committing to FOR NOW.

You can be weird with me. You can dream big with me. And you can count on me to champion you as you build your self-love muscle.

THE MAGIC OF THE WEEKLY CHECK-IN

Accountability: No wiggling out of things.

Alignment: Are you watering what you want to grow? Are you allowing yourself to work WITH your energy, or does this feel forced? How can we make this easier?

Momentum: You’ll find yourself prioritizing actions (no matter now tiny!) that will support your commitment so you can add them into your Check-in. 🙂

Proof Gathering: We tend to not give ourselves credit for our natural gifts, our resilience, our progress. This gets infused into how we see ourselves, and how we talk to (and about) ourselves. The Weekly Check-in combats negative self talk by literally collecting data that in fact…

You ARE someone DOING the thing. 

THE MAGIC OF COMPASSIONATE WITNESSING

I’m known for laughter, permission giving, and integrity vibe-checks.

I know pushing against your capacity is a losing game. I have an intimate relationship with grief, and living with a brain injury.

I will question your goals – I will ask you to get specific. So that you are clear. So that your actions compound towards what actually matters to you, not something performative or pressured.

Not everyone was given loving encouragement from their family. Self love comes from you, yes – but also it needs a boost from sincere people who are willing to see you for who you are. This is what I aim to bring in our time together. 

 It’s all fun and games until a new default is unlocked and you are so proud of what you no longer put up with.

HOW IT ALL WORKS:

Once we have decided to work together, we set up an orientation coffee (phone or zoom) so that we can sort out logistics without taking any time from your first monthly session. This is where we book sessions, handle payments, set you up on Voxer if you’re not already familiar, talk about how I can best support YOU, in this process.

I will help you choose your YES – the compass and guiding theme for our time together.

We meet each month over phone or zoom for 60-90 minutes of personal, meaningful reflection and exploration. This is where you can share openly in real time, unrushed and unfiltered. I will ask questions to deepen your experience, and together we can set you up for success in the month ahead. You have room to be a mess, and room to be a mountain.

Homework is completely customized for each client. What takes your breath away will be different from someone else. I will challenge you and cheer you on by giving you tasks that bring beauty and meaning to your process. This keeps you accountable, in focus and moves you towards your dream.

Each week you will fill out and send me your Weekly Check-in. I will be excited to respond with a voice message to cheer you on and witness your experience. 

Should you feel stuck, in need of an integrity vibe-check or want to share a win, open Voxer (a free messaging app) and send me a message. I will be your witness, cheer queen and guide to keep you going steady between check-ins. 

At the end of 3 months we will either connect to celebrate and send you on your groovy way, or re-commit for another cycle if you just can’t get enough. 😉

YOU WILL GET THE MOST FROM THIS OFFER IF YOU:

  • Protect time in your calendar and allow yourself to be supported by me (60-90 minutes monthly)
  • Are willing to complete a weekly check-in and reflection (15-60 minutes weekly)
  • Are done with punishing yourself and ready to give kindness a try (ongoing practice while being human)

About Danette

I know what it is like to doubt your own truth. To wait for others to make the call. To feel lucky, but not proud. To be working hard in relationships where you feel unseen. I know the frustration of having done a ton of personal growth work and still, somehow, making the same fear based choices – and I know what it’s like to make it worse by saying, “I should know better.”

I know that change starts on the inside. That this work is worth it. That we can end up somewhere entirely different – and far better – than we had originally planned when we surrender to self-love as our compass.

I am a professionally trained life coach with a creative background. I have a knack for developing new ways of seeing the world and ourselves. My life has been dedicated to the creative process and relationships – with self-love at the core. I am queer, open minded, and have navigated both monogamous and non-monogamous partnerships. I am well traveled on the sticky landscapes of the heart and I love the power of creating our relationships as we would any other work of art.

Self-love is a practice, a path, and a power I have dedicated my life to. After 25 years of being married to myself + my insatiable passion for studying all things personal growth, I know this work.


I can support you in yours.

Let’s Work Together

Soft Steady Yes is a three month self commitment coaching program.

Curious? Nervous? Got questions?

Send me an email:

danette@radicalcreativesanctuary.com

We’ll set up a call to chat with zero pressure – seriously. I understand this is a significant commitment, and I want you to feel sure that working with me is the right choice for you.